The first ‘Mama Of The Month’ of 2018 is dedicated to Natalie aka @stylemesunday. Natalie started a project called ‘Warrior Woman’, making women aware of body confidence and why we should embrace our bodies, whatever shape you are…a subject I hold very close to my heart.
Inspiration starts here…
1.Tell us a little bit about yourself – name, where you’re from, how many children you have etc…
I’m Natalie, I live in East London, I’m married and we have two girls aged 5 and 8. I have and run a successful blog and instagram account called Style Me Sunday.
2.What was your profession before you became a mother?
I used to be a midwife. I really enjoyed my job but the shift work didn’t work for my family.
3.What changes does a woman have to apply to her life when she becomes a mother that you weren’t aware of?
When you become a parent, you have to put someone else’s needs before your own. You have to protect and nourish them. I didn’t realise how much my life would change once I became a mother.
4.Tell us about Warrior Woman Project – What is it?
My Warrior Woman Project is designed to empower women and to get women loving themselves again. Last summer I got a bunch of women together of all shapes and sizes and we posed semi naked in our underwear and had beautiful photos taken. It was really freeing and enlightening.
5.Why did you decide to start this project? What message are you putting across?
I personally felt a huge shift in my self-esteem after I had children, as I was surprised and disgusted by how my body had changed. I have worked hard to fall in love with my body again, and to increase my confidence. I thought I’m probably not the only one who has felt like this and so I decided to help other women. What has become clear is that this self-loathing happens to so many women across the board not just mothers. We have so many pressures around us that reinforces this. I want us to get back in touch with living and loving. After all, hating on ourselves can be all consuming, and that means we are neglecting to think about other really important things that matter, like enjoying spending time with our kids on the beach without worrying about whether our tankini has rolled up to exposed a bit of flesh. Or social injustices like a lack of women, people of colour and people of differing abilities in powerful positions making important decisions, that warrants our attention far more than whether our thighs touch.
6.What pressure do you find mothers put themselves under unnecessarily?
I think as mothers we are so hard on ourselves. We try to do everything and be there for everyone except ourselves. We often come last on the list and I feel very strongly that this ends up benefitting no one.
7.What would you say to women who don’t like their post baby bodies?
Think about the amazing things your body has done. And also remember that no one else cares what your body looks like except you. Sometimes we think the world is looking at us with disgust, but they aren’t.
8.Where do you see WarriorWoman project in 5 years time?
I have no idea what I’m doing next week , let alone in five years time. I don’t have huge aspirations except to keep doing what I love. That changes as time goes on so I like to have the flexibility to go with the flow and not out myself under pressure by making long term goals.
9.What advice would you give any mother who is in need of a confidence make over?
I would start of by accepting compliments with a thank you and not following it up with something self-deprecating. I would also work hard not saying anything derogatory about yourself at all out loud. This can be quite tough at first but I promise you it gets easier and soon that voice in your head will start to get quieter too.
10.What knowledge will you pass onto your children when they become parents?
That being brave comes in many forms. That it is ok to be vulnerable and to share your feelings with others. And that your good friends are worth their weight in gold, don’t f*ck them up over silly things.
Thank you so much Natalie – visit her website www.stylemesunday.com for some fashion inspiration.
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See you next week